If your parent is dying

[braided-rug]

The emotion thingo you can click on is very useful. It helps indentify your feelings properly.

www.riprap.org.uk/support/family7.asp

"It is said that when you lose a parent, you have lost your past. Your parents have always been there since the time you were born. To experience life without them, takes much getting used to regardless of how old they were when they died."

dying.lovetoknow.com/How_to_Deal_With_a_Loss_of_a_Parent

[violet]

Very tough issues, Br. I remember going through all of this when dh lost his Dad, and then a few years later his Mum. It's always too soon.

[linda]

Yes, this is tough to deal with.

My mom died, 8 months before I got married so she has been gone almost 19 years. It was *the* hardest thing I've ever went through. Even today, that memory of her dying as well as the period after she died, seems so fresh, almost as if it was just yesterday.

I think, for me (and everyone is different for sure) I never really 'got over it' rather I learned to 'go around it'. She was such a big part of my life, my best friend. When she was gone, there was such a huge hole left there.

Hugs to anyone who is going through this.

Linda

[braided-rug]

linda, I'm so sorry your Mum wasn't there to share things about the children when they were small.

My husband and I both have our parents alive, at least for the moment, all new territory.

[linda]

Thanks, Braided-Rug. I think that was one of the hardest parts because she *really* wanted to have grandchildren ......and would constantly say, "I just want to have grandchildren before I die."

But, she knew I was getting married, she liked my dh to be so that meant something. My daughter's middle name is the same has my mom's as well.

....it sounds like you are going through some difficult times.

Linda

[braided-rug]

Thanks for the hug. Last I heard it was 50/50 and someone had forgotten to tell me that it had changed to a timeline. But I wasn't upset about them forgetting, still seems a little unreal just yet. But I spend a little time reflecting each day while I have some time, then try to put it out of my mind. The day to day issues are handled by my step-brother. He is doing well, has a lot on his plate, but he managed to get him into a nursing home.