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Post by violet on Aug 11, 2006 9:06:40 GMT 10
what to think. Dh is 54, he's 7 years older than me, and wants to retire or change to a part time job in the next year or two. He tells me his job will run out soon, and yet yesterday he received the second of two major awards in the past three months. This one is from his employer. In the next breath he asks me if he should exercise some of his share options so that he owns them outright - just in case he leaves work.  He wants to buy a country property, which is kind of tricky if he won't be working to pay for it, not to mention the three children, one still at school, living at home. I'm happy to fix this place up, sell, and buy somewhere cheaper, so that we can buy another property outright, but it won't sell unless it's fixed up a bit (I'm talking repairs and painting, not gold leaf on the ceiling roses!). He's happy to move, and says he's happy to fix it up, but is not being forthcoming with the money. In short, he's all over the place. I've suggested for years that he change jobs or buy/start a small importing business, but he's very resistant to change. Perhaps he's waiting for me to, as I have done in the past, take the lead with the direction of our lives? |
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Post by braided-rug on Aug 11, 2006 10:18:00 GMT 10
I wish it was all fresh in my mind, I'm sure I would have a strong opinion then lol.
I'm sorry I don't know much about shares.
With the corporate world it is the day that you think you are going good that you should worry about.
It just came back to me the agonising I did about the kids when we did things like think of moving regarding schools etc. I had forgotten. Things usually turn out.
With real estate I would only worry about repairs, the rest doesn't matter. Has Phil helped alot?
I was so bad when we moved near Melbourne. I had everything sorted where we were. The kids had the best activities they had in years, and my house was functioning. If it wasn't for the fact that I could leave the house the way it was and rent with minimum furniture that I got prised out of there. I was able to visit as well. I also went to a place closer to home every week for ballet so that helped. I also got used to tall hills around me which was a great help when I shifted here.
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Post by violet on Aug 11, 2006 13:18:51 GMT 10
It can be very hard to be transplanted, Br. Now the kids are older, they would like to stay in the area because their friends are nearby. I'd always thought we could go further out, but perhaps that's ten years away, not one!
I suppose this has been bubbling along for a couple of years now and I wish he'd just stop talking about it until the day he comes home and says, well, I've quit.
As for the painting, the whole house doesn't need to be done but quite a bit does. Remedial painting, as the estate agent said. All those holes in the walls from the kids hanging things, etc etc.
Phil has been a help but for the next stage we need a painter, plus a few blinds replaced, some broken tiling repaired, sub-floor repairs (minor), verandah floor needs attention, one fence is falling down, and of course there's a whole lot of cleaning and decluttering to do.
Anyway, I'm way ahead of myself - we've been looking for somewhere within 5 km of where we live now, but with a north-facing backyard, views, more car spaces and hopefully a separate studio or "granny flat" for years. I've found three places that met all or nearly all the criteria but dh turned his nose up at them, just like he did to this place when I first found it. Suppose I just need to look harder, but there have been less houses for sale in recent years, especially if you aren't spending a million or more..
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Post by braided-rug on Aug 11, 2006 19:54:28 GMT 10
I suppose it didn't matter with our house so much as it was going to be sold as a rental property.
I remember buying a car for 8 people and then my two stepsons promptly left home.
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Post by violet on Aug 12, 2006 13:34:05 GMT 10
Lol, I love the car story, Br! Just a couple of years after doing their long-awaited house extension, two of my sil's boys moved out!
We looked at a house today, it was warm and lovely but very run down. It needed more work than we're prepared to do at this point. Never mind, there's always tomorrow!
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Post by braided-rug on Aug 12, 2006 21:37:24 GMT 10
Last time we moved a principal said we should stay put until our son finished his VCE, so I guess that is good advice.
My husband seemed to know what you were saying about the shares.
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Post by braided-rug on Aug 12, 2006 21:44:20 GMT 10
dh thinks that the people your husband deals with could find him a job or give clues where to find one, that he should talk with them.
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Post by violet on Aug 14, 2006 9:03:23 GMT 10
Your dh is quite correct - but the problem is that dh doesn't think he wants to work!!  I really do not understand what's going on in his mind. Hopefully when the day comes, he will find something to get enthusiastic about - or stay at home for a week and realise that working is much more interesting! Especially as there will be no money to live on. |
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I really do not understand what's going on in his mind. Hopefully when the day comes, he will find something to get enthusiastic about - or stay at home for a week and realise that working is much more interesting! Especially as there will be no money to live on.