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Post by Admin on Jan 13, 2006 5:06:13 GMT 10
Well, girls, I am thinking I am probably the oldest by far of the members on this list...I have been thru babies, toddlers, tweens, teenagers and grown adult children. I didn't do well with the empty nest syndrome but now I have grandkids and that is precious indeed. My new phase is wanting to down size and move near to my family. I know probably not many if any of you have thought of downsizing your possessions, but if you have I would love to hear your thoughts on this.  ? I use to think I could never part with my treasures but lately I have the urge to just sell, sell, and sell some more and have just my very favourited things around me. Am I crazy? |
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Post by ellise on Jan 13, 2006 6:31:43 GMT 10
I'm in that mode now Car! While I still have one at home for at least 3 more years, I feel the need to downsize and simplify my life, and home.
I felt the same way on many of my possessions, but once I let them go , I was alright. It's much cleaner and neater without so much "stuff" around.
I guess, I'm trying to make it easier for when I depart this world, I don't want Daniel and his wife to go."WOW! Mom had a lot of junk, what do we do with it?"
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Post by braided-rug on Jan 13, 2006 7:20:06 GMT 10
We have been thinking about it, in case we move again. Then other days dh sounds as if the changeover fees would be a waste, and I could dig myself in here forever and keep whatever I like lol. It is terrible to be so up in the air.
Do you mean your children Cara?
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Post by lynn on Jan 13, 2006 8:10:02 GMT 10
I grew up with alot of stuff. My mom did and still does, collect all sorts of stuff. Books, magazines, thimbles, etc. It drove me crazy to have to clean all that stuff. And the time it took to maintain it!
When I got married and began to spend alot of time with my MIL, she really inspired me to live a simpler life style. She has down sized and moved many times in her life, and her home is simple, but beautiful. She is really my inspiration in living a simpler lifestyle. I really do believe less is more. More peace, more time......but that's just my 2 cents worth.
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Post by Admin on Jan 13, 2006 8:46:36 GMT 10
Yes, br the empty nest when all my dear children left home. That is a hard transitiion
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Post by braided-rug on Jan 13, 2006 15:16:43 GMT 10
I was the opposite, my Mum was very good at throwing things out. I use the word she uses. Maybe she uses the word pitch, obviously she enjoys it. So the word and the sound of the word puts me off a little. But, it does take a lot of effort to maintain a collection of things. But I guess that depends on whether you have changed in the meantime from when they were originally acquired and are not used as much.
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Post by violet on Jan 13, 2006 20:10:59 GMT 10
I am easily overwhelmed by clutter, so don't have a huge amount of stuff. However, yes, I think I do understand what you are saying, Cara. In two years dd, my youngest, finishes school, and while it will be very sad when they all go, I actually look forward to a smaller house, less possessions, less attachment to things. I want a simple life, but then I think I was born middle aged.
I was once told that you spend the first 40 years of your life gathering stuff, and the next 40 years trying to get rid of it!
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Post by Admin on Jan 14, 2006 0:01:11 GMT 10
I think that it about the truth of it MissViolet. Gathering for 40 and getting rid of for 40. I remember the first time my parents downsized, I thought they were crazy. But now I understand.
Dh isn't quite with me on this yet, but I hope he will get on board. He has more attachement to things now than I do.
I just want my life to be simple.
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Post by daddys3chicks on Jan 14, 2006 2:19:39 GMT 10
Hugs Car. My Mom is 85 and I dread when we have to go through her things! She has lived in the same house since I was 3 and I will be 49 this year! She grew up in the depression and on a farm - she rarely throws anything away! Her house is not messy, but she just has a lot of "stuff". Plus, she is a freak about things being stolen. My sister and I will have to look in everything - Mom told me once when she goes away she pins her jewelry in the linings of the curtains!
I am decluttering in a big way. I just would like to move back to KY at some point, and we would have a smaller home there. Good luck downsizing!
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Post by Admin on Jan 14, 2006 2:35:03 GMT 10
Thanks Cheryl. I understand, my mom was like that. She passed two years ago at age 80 and she was always afraid someone would steal from her. We downsized her twice but she still had plently to go through. It was a hard job. I don't want my kids to have to go thru that. I want them to take the things they want now and enjoy them while I can still see they get pleasure from having them. KWIM.
Moving back to KY. I didnt realize you use to live in KY. Where? Ya wanna be my neighbor?
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Post by daddys3chicks on Jan 14, 2006 2:45:17 GMT 10
I am from Louisville. I miss it a lot. NC is nice, but I love KY. My Mom's family is from Monticello, KY down around Somerset.
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Post by Admin on Jan 14, 2006 3:09:04 GMT 10
Oh my goodness. I know exactly where Monticello is. And Somerset isn't that far from my dd Lori. What a small world. Louisville is nice too. That is 1 1/2 hours from Lori's. What took you to NC
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Post by daddys3chicks on Jan 14, 2006 9:52:34 GMT 10
We were transferred with the nursing home company. We moved here in Jan 1993. Sadly my Daddy died in May of the same year. We both worked for the company until Katie was born, and I started being a SAHM. DH worked for them for another year or so until budget reductions forced him make and ethical/moral decision. So he quit and went to work for Wachovia.
Since we don't have the ties from the nursing home company keeping us here we both want to move back to KY (even though DH is from NJ). But our recent financial challenge prohibits us doing the work we need to do on this house and we probably couldn't get another mortgage. So here we stay - for now.
Maybe God will move the mountain?
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Post by braided-rug on Jan 14, 2006 10:04:19 GMT 10
When we were a young family we didn't have many options, but it will pay off when you get older I'm sure.
I feel like I want to move home too, I have been here 2 years, but starting to feel more comfortable, and I am sure having help online has been a great help to me.
Cara did you mean you want to move to be near your children or family when you grew up?
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Post by braided-rug on Jan 14, 2006 10:07:27 GMT 10
I suppose you need to find out if you have changed, I know my attitude to some of my things changed after I moved here, I think it is the isolation, different environment.
And maybe rule out being reckless, I have thought of this for myself as well.
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