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Post by braided-rug on Aug 6, 2006 22:31:29 GMT 10
Well I think it happens. Our husbands are busy, we learn how to cope, they come home from work and the house has little privacy and we end up talking to everyone else.
It is a battle.
I'm sure the old houses were made with doors on each room for a reason lol.
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Post by violet on Aug 7, 2006 10:02:44 GMT 10
Lol, you're right about the doors, Br.
I think it can also be easy to become isolated as we're so busy taking care of everyone else that we schedule their needs in, but not ours, especially if we are trying to live frugally. Also, in some areas it's the norm for everyone to work so that there are not many people around during the day when a housewife can find a little time to spare. Once the kids are all at school, everyone kind of vanishes.
edited to add: over the years I've done lots of little courses at community centers which has been a good way for me to get out there and do something different.
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Post by braided-rug on Aug 7, 2006 16:26:17 GMT 10
Yes the frugality is a factor. I guess it is just a matter of taking stock now and again before anything gets past the point of harder return.
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Post by violet on Aug 7, 2006 20:57:00 GMT 10
I just thought of something else, we're not middle aged (and you're younger than me, Br), we're in our prime and it's a shame to let something so valuable go to waste!!
Once your little one is at school, can you help out there? I used to do reading and maths with the kids in the lower grades, also the school banking and I did shelving in the library. Great way to catch up with the school news and get out of the house. They were always looking for people to go on various committees (not my style, but I was happy to help do the behind the scenes stuff) which is another great way of meeting the other mums.
With regard to your dh, perhaps in another year or so the two of you can go out for a regular meal together, without the kids? Or maybe lunch once in a while.
Actually, given the beautiful area you live in, why not a picnic lunch for the two of you? Would the kids be ok for say two hours?
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Post by braided-rug on Aug 7, 2006 22:20:08 GMT 10
I am really looking forward to next year.
I was just daydreaming about a counter tea.
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Post by violet on Aug 8, 2006 16:22:28 GMT 10
Only a term and a half to go, Br!!
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Post by cara on Aug 9, 2006 7:57:33 GMT 10
Ladies,
I know from whence you speak. I suffered greatly when our youngest went off to college. Here we call it the empty-nest syndrome. I just didn't know what to do with myself, with all my time and I certainly didn't know who I was anymore. After all for all those years, I had been dh's wife, and Tami, Lori and Scott mom.
It was a very difficult transition for me, but I muddle thru. I got involved more in church and spent more time with my friends.
I still have days where I long to have them all back.
My advice for what it is worth...do little things now for yourselves, get out and go places, and don't wait until they are all gone...and your left with all that time.
You all will be fine, I just know you will.
Hugs
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Post by violet on Aug 10, 2006 15:00:32 GMT 10
I think that's really good advice, Cara, to find something to do before they go.  |
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Post by braided-rug on Aug 14, 2006 21:56:24 GMT 10
I got some encouraging news today about dhs work. He is getting a break to help catch up and things. We also have a day off on Friday.
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Post by teddymaker on Aug 15, 2006 0:45:31 GMT 10
that is good news Linda ....I know how you are feeling..I am lonely most of the time....I talk to my dogs alot  ....most of the woman in our neighborhood work or have little ones...and the rest are much older...so I have nothing in common with them.... I have tried to connect with other woman at Church, but they have their own circles of friends and don't really want to let you in, kwim?? |
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....most of the woman in our neighborhood work or have little ones...and the rest are much older...so I have nothing in common with them....