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Post by ellise on Nov 20, 2005 3:00:38 GMT 10
I will be this year, I am just so sick of all the Drama put on by Don's mother. She does and say hurtful things to me, and so I have decided that this year they guys can go to see her but I am not going. I shouldn't have to put up with hearing such negative things about myself (not for 17 years!) So I will cook my turkey the day before, and have a nice quite day at home by myself  . I will be able to do whatever I want to do, LOL maybe I can get a few more hats and scarves made if I don't have to get up every 10 minutes! |
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Post by braided-rug on Nov 20, 2005 10:09:10 GMT 10
A shame you can't all stay home together. Never mind, I hope you have a nice day!
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Post by lynn on Nov 20, 2005 10:44:14 GMT 10
Bless your heart, Ellise. I know that is so hard to deal with. My dfil can sometimes be difficult to be around. It does make it hard, but, somehow God has always given me grace to keep sailing thru those rough waters.....eventually it gets calm....we've had our share of swapping words, I am ashamed to say that. But it's the truth. Shane and I have been married nearly 20 yrs and I love him so much, I just now try to shut my mouth and NOT roll my eyes when things are said that just absolutely rub me the wrong way.
I'll be praying for you in this. It is so hard, I know, for I have been/am there also. With him it isn't drama, though, it's a self righteous attitude about the world in general.
sending you a hug, dear sister! Remember, we are more than conquerors. Hard to see sometimes, but that's what He's promised us. \0/\0/\0/
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Post by lucie on Nov 20, 2005 11:55:44 GMT 10
Ellise, I have spent 3 new years day alone in the past, because I had decided that I no longer wanted to go see my inlaws, since they didn't care for me or respected me. I let Pierre go with the boys and I stayed home alone. The first time was hard and I felt stressed but I just couldn't see them anymore...then I got used to it. Then one year Pierre asked me to accompany him because he didn't feel the strength to go alone with the boys...imagine...not feeling good visiting your parents...that is sad...so I went and was the perfect daughter in law~smiled, listened and didn't say my opnion...and I have been doing this for years now. I built a protective wall and I keep silent and only talk if necessary. I don't let them invade my soul...kwim?... I told you my story Ellise, because I want you not to feel alone. I understand you so much and I admire that you are goign to think of you and respect yourself, by staying home. ((((((HUGS)))))) I'll be thinking about you, Ellise.  |
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Post by ellise on Nov 21, 2005 1:06:10 GMT 10
I am just at a point in my life that I don't think I can hold my tongue any longer KWIM? I get it from both sides (his parents are divorced and remarried). I no longer want to be talked down to and or made to feel like I don't belong there.
I've been a part of this family for 17 long (sometimes really hard) years, and have always just smiled and let things go, but I can no longer do that, or my heart is telling me I can't let them treat me badly any longer.
I'm tired of being told I'm not a good mother, daughter in law or person. How can I not be good, when I bend over backwards to try make them happy? I do everything for them, and I am still treated like a piece of doggie poo on a shoe!!
SO NO MORE!!! I will go to Don's dad's with them because Carey is going and I refuse to let anyone make this young lady feel out of place or for them to walk out of the room and leave her there by herself like they do me.
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Post by lynn on Nov 21, 2005 8:33:32 GMT 10
I'd probably prefer being alone too.
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