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Post by braided-rug on Apr 28, 2006 11:52:06 GMT 10
I just got an email from dh.
"G. is being bullied at school.
She was in tears today."
3 1/2 hours until school finishes. I presume her Dad was there for her. I heard of another teacher's child having a similar thing happen a few days ago.
Yesterday I was getting used to being here, to save moving and the expense. The only problem with cultural remnant places like this is that you get this kind of behaviour and local people in charge overlook things because the kids are just kids or they know the parents or whatever. In our hometown my culture got knocked out of me pretty quickly as the teachers didn't make excuses for little kids and things got stamped out.
Having said that you did have to be mentally tough to go to school there too, maybe all town schools are the same. Both had around 250 kids, seems to be a bad number.
I suppose these things happen in Year 7 too, the Year 8s are a bit like that, but it could have been other kids, I don't know the story yet.
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Post by violet on May 3, 2006 21:25:30 GMT 10
I'm really sorry to hear about your daughter, Br. I do think that girls in year 7 and 8 can be thoroughly horrid, and the schools aren't always able to deal with it effectively. I would have thought it would be easier in a smaller school, but then girls can be so sneaky.
I assume the school has an anti-bullying policy? Is there someone who can mediate between your daughter and her tormentor/s?
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Post by Admin on May 4, 2006 0:29:10 GMT 10
BR, so sorry for you dd. Please go up there and take care of it immediately. Your daughter should not have to tolerate that type of behavior. That is horrid.
Bullies should be stopped. Please hug your dd for me and tell her I am in pray for her.
God Bless
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Post by lucie on May 4, 2006 6:34:39 GMT 10
Oh Linda....  I am so sorry. If you can do something about it, don't hesitate. My sister got bullied all her pimary and highschool...I didn't know about it until a few years ago when she told me. We didn't go to the same schools. She told me she often told my parents but eventually stopped when they didn't do anything to stop it for her. She just tried to deal with it all these years. She was laughed at, teased almost everyday. She even got her glasses broken and beaten up a few times. You know what she tells me today about this? All these years of being bullied made her feel not worthy and she felt very alone. She had one friend only until she was 14 then she was alone. It made me feel so sad and even guilty to not have known all this this while were growing up. She suffered alot. I'll be praying for your dd. She doesn't deserve this. Kids can be so cruel to other kids... |
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Post by lucie on May 4, 2006 6:36:58 GMT 10
...oh and I have to say...I don't understand WHY kids are cruel to other kids.... If someone has the answer on this one, I would love to know. It's sad, isn't it? |
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Post by braided-rug on May 4, 2006 9:10:54 GMT 10
The person whose job it is to deal with it came and spoke to her and I beleive she spoke to the boys involved. I will pass on your best wishes Cara and also Lucie and missviolet.
She has been having a good week I think, but I should ask her as well and also dh to see if there has been any further trouble.
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Post by Michelle on May 4, 2006 11:08:53 GMT 10
I missed this post before How sad. It breaks my heart when kids are mean to other kids. When K had a bully earlier this year, it was awful. There really wasn't much the school would do for her I hope things are better now for your dd, br. |
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Post by Michelle on May 4, 2006 11:11:49 GMT 10
Oh Linda.... I am so sorry. If you can do something about it, don't hesitate. My sister got bullied all her pimary and highschool...I didn't know about it until a few years ago when she told me. We didn't go to the same schools. She told me she often told my parents but eventually stopped when they didn't do anything to stop it for her. She just tried to deal with it all these years. She was laughed at, teased almost everyday. She even got her glasses broken and beaten up a few times. You know what she tells me today about this? All these years of being bullied made her feel not worthy and she felt very alone. She had one friend only until she was 14 then she was alone. It made me feel so sad and even guilty to not have known all this this while were growing up. She suffered alot. I'll be praying for your dd. She doesn't deserve this. Kids can be so cruel to other kids... I was teased mercilessly as a child. I started wearing glasses when I was 18 mos old, and I was called all the usual names "four eyes' "coke bottle head" etc. And what was even worse was that when I took my glasses off, my eye turned in toward my nose. I blame my lack of self confidence on that teasing. It's something that stays with you forever. The pain is so deep as a child, and it can really "scar" you for life. |
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Post by lynn on May 4, 2006 11:46:09 GMT 10
I agree, Michelle. I've worn glasses since I was 9. I went thru all those names too. My grammy always told me that "four eyes are better than two." Her comforting reassurance is what helped me thru it all.
Documented bullying in our county can result in permanent expulsion. But in my experience, the teacher has nearly always said she didn't witness it, so it can't be documented. Hogwash, I say. What child is going to bully in the presence of a teacher??? Seems like for every problem, there is a loophole....but that's a whole 'nother thread.
Give her a hug from me, BR. Hope she has brighter days ahead!
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Post by violet on May 4, 2006 12:57:50 GMT 10
I'm another glasses girl (from age 11), had marvellous buck teeth too, and pimples, what a horror! Lucky I'm a resiliant sort of character. ;D
However, Br, get some advice from dh, or someone at school who has skills in counselling, because how you approach this will also have an effect on your dd. I think it's really important that your dd understands that the other kid is the problem, that there's nothing wrong with her. If the tormentor is a girl, it's usually a power-play/jealousy thing. If it's a boy, well if not raised well they can just be plain old dumb.
I do hope this gets nipped in the bud quick smart, some kids are so awful, and your dd doesn't need to put up with it.
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Post by braided-rug on May 4, 2006 22:04:15 GMT 10
My dd was saying to me tonight that she was told the other kid had the problem. She has heard this before but accepted it from this particular teacher which is good. She seems very happy so I hope that is a good sign.
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Post by violet on May 4, 2006 22:31:05 GMT 10
Good that the teacher is aware of the problem, and that your dd seems happy. I do hope this is sorted out quickly, for her sake.
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Post by lucie on May 6, 2006 0:55:30 GMT 10
Michelle, I'm sorry you were teased like that also. My sister also had glasses as young as you and her eye also moved inward when she took them off. My dad was the same, also. Imagine that...Isn't it a coincedince that you had the same thing as my sister... I empathise with you very much. (((hugs))) |
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Post by violet on May 15, 2006 16:35:45 GMT 10
Br, are things ok now for your dd??
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Post by braided-rug on May 15, 2006 23:21:04 GMT 10
Yes I think so.
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I am so sorry. If you can do something about it, don't hesitate. My sister got bullied all her pimary and highschool...I didn't know about it until a few years ago when she told me. We didn't go to the same schools. She told me she often told my parents but eventually stopped when they didn't do anything to stop it for her. She just tried to deal with it all these years.
